Emotional neglect rarely looks dramatic from the outside. There’s no single catastrophic ‘event’ you can point to. Instead, it shows up quietly, impacting the way you see and speak to yourself in the here and now. You see, emotional neglect isn’t about what happened in your childhood. It’s about what DIDN’T happen. Not being comforted. Not being protected. Not being encouraged, validated, or emotionally held. Over time, your nervous system adapts, and those adaptations become an inner voice...

'When is the right time to have therapy for trauma?’ is a common question people ask following a traumatic event. ‘Is it too soon? Am I too late? When will I feel the most benefit?’ The answer is complicated because there are no hard and fast rules. Let me explain… How Long Should You Wait to Have Therapy Following a Traumatic Event? I always recommend people wait about four weeks before starting therapy, but this isn’t set in stone. It’s a very rough guide based on the opinion that after...

I hear all sorts of myths about trauma therapy through my work with clients and supervising therapists. These myths and assumptions are a huge bugbear of mine! There’s rarely any evidence to support them and they usually lack the nuance I believe is so crucial when it comes to conversations about therapy. In an attempt to redress the balance, here are the things I wish more people knew. Why? Because understanding trauma doesn’t just bring clarity, it brings hope. And fostering hope is...